relationships

Who is looking? Who has found? And Who has the answers?

I have been in a couple of marriages, 2 to be exact and I still have hope and faith that there will be someone who gets me. 2 Dates and 2 Marriages, HMMM, I have some of the equation so ask and lets find out.

cheers and I hope this community takes off and gets some more people to just join and share, stories or experiences. So start spilling it people!!!

In response to the Questions Asked

Well I don't beleive there are any concrete answers that;s for sure. In my younger days. I outran many proposals and two engagements. Then I married my husband. We were together a very long time, 3 daughters, before divorcing. He is now deceased.

I still don't know if I get it. Because he was my very best friend until he passed. As it turns out, some relationships of others that we knew were worse from all appearances than our ever was, and yet the couples are still together, treating each other with contempt. But they are still together. The things I held my ex acountability and reliable for seem small in comparison. to some of the other things I've  witnessed.

I suppose going into a serious relationship or marriage, that you have to be committed to that person, and not see them through the eyes of others, but only through your eyes. I think, I really beleive that a lot of times people listen too mcuh to friends and family in matters of the heart, and make their decisions accordingly. 

You have to love a person for what you beleive to be unique, because if you use other people measure you will never be happy or content.  

I remember a long time ago when I was a girl. A woman I'd admired and loved as a role model had divorced her husband and the father of her children, she spending time with a guy that did questionably illegal things. Or so I'd been told. I remember asking childishly, how could she be with him. She's so beautiful and intelligent, he's no good for her. Her ex husband who was a friend to our family told me that, " no one know what goes on between two people, and while we may have thought he was a bad guy, he was probably very good to her". Go figure! I never, never, forgot what I was told by her former husband, who was also eventually best man at my wedding. I used the insight he'd given later to guide myself through other relationships. No I didn't like to date bad guys. Well maybe a couple after the divorce. Not the life for me, I got over it quiskly, but they were always nice to me. I think you have to lay down the law as to what you will and want accept. However, it all seems to work better when you keep people out of your business and make your own decisions. Most importantly, be safe. 

Hope this  story helps someone.

Blueberrypi   

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